Sunday, September 23, 2018

6 Lies You've Been Told About Being A Military Girlfriend

When I first started dating my husband you would not believe the stories I thought were true. I didn't know any better and chose to believe what others told me.

While this was very dumb of me at the time, I've learned quite a bit over the years. I hope after reading this post you will not make the same mistakes I did!

1. "You can visit your boyfriend/girlfriend anytime you would like."
You may have paid for a flight a month in advance to go visit, but the military can still say no. Believe me, it is one of the most annoying things about the military.

Just because you purchased a plane ticket does not mean they will make exceptions. Their pass can be taken away at any time.

You have to have a plan B, C, and D.

2. You cannot be involved in the FRG (Family Readiness Groups).
I already know that people will disagree with me on this. Oh well.

I HATE that people assume that military girlfriends cannot be involved in FRGs. I have felt the sting of not being included on email lists when my husband deployed to Afghanistan.

I've seen FRGs run by military girlfriends before. Please please please do not afraid to ask to be added to the FRG roster. You might not be in the area with your bf/gf.

3. There is a competition.
You know who cares what rank your spouse is? No one. It isn't your rank.

Yes, it is hard that your spouse is gone for nine months but other people are allowed to miss their spouse. Just focus on keeping your relationship healthy and strong. Do not worry or be concerned with what others are doing.

4. All military spouses are terrible.
Haven't been told that all military spouses are dependas yet? Wait for it. It will happen.

I'm not entirely sure who in their right mind would marry someone in the military for the benefits. I have yet to meet someone who has but apparently, that is the stereotype.

I have met some amazing military spouses and I have met some that are not worth my time. It is the same as the civilian world.

5. All the women your spouse works will be all over them.


I have seen this statement made so many times I need to address it. Not every woman your spouse works with will want to date them! This is the most annoying stereotype of women in the military.

If you take a step back, you will actually find that there are many women serving who are amazing people. I've been lucky enough to make friends with the women who worked with my husband. Why would you miss out on friendships because of your own biases?

6. Since you're just a girlfriend, your relationship doesn't matter.
Your relationship is absolutely important! You have no idea how much your love and support matters!

Every single married couple has been in the same place you were. You are being very brave to deal with the distance, deployments and overall craziness.

Do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise.


  1. A freaking men! I have never agreed with a post more in my life! Thank you.

  2. Great post and so true. Especially #6, he needs you and you matter. Just like the post said, "You have no idea how much your love and support matters!"


© Birdie and Bubba
Blogger Designs by pipdig