Tuesday, April 26, 2016

"I Hate Military Life" Moments and Why They're Okay


 

 

   You just found out you are PCSing the the worst post imaginable.

   You're pregnant and your spouse will be missing the birth....for the second time.

   The military has an uncanny way of knowing when you have an idea of what should happen....then switching it up on you. Most of the time, rolling with what is thrown at you is the best way to handle the bumps in military life.

    But sometimes you wish the military was an actual person.....so you could scream at them....loudly.

    Being involved in the military lifestyle means being involved in life where the only constant is change. When he left for his first deployment, I thought that it was my duty to be the calm in the storms that he may experience while he was in Afghanistan. I was pretty good about it for a few months until I hit a wall.

   "I HATE THIS!" I yelled while my Mom calmly listened, "THEY SAID HE WASN'T GOING TO DEPLOY AND NOW HE IS AND I'M MAD AND I HAVE NO CONTROL AND NO ONE CARES."

  Did my rant solve anything? Nope. Not one bit. In fact the guilt I felt for being mad at him protecting our country made me feel even worse.

What kind of a person was I? I knew this could happen.

Deploying to conflict zones is what the military does and I was well aware of this. There are certain things that you are well aware of getting involved with someone in the military. Most of the time it is fruitless to complain and never solves any problems. The mission is not meant to make you happy it is meant to defend the United States.

But none of us are perfect.

We have our weak moments and our selfish moments when we just want our spouses home with us. You are allowed to have thoughts of "If only they weren't in the military..." because you are a human. Being strong all the time is not possible and sometimes letting out that negative energy (in an appropriate way) can help you move forward.

"Tough times don't last, tough people do."

.....also wine helps
 



 

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